Wednesday, June 21, 2006
peter: i told you she's a loose canon that one, she's from another planet. she must be from mars.
me: no pete, she cant possibly be from mars, only the likes of elvis, john lennon and bruce lee, lives in mars. shes probably from uranus.
peter: hahahahaha that's a good one ger
me: im being mean
peter: no geri, that was very clever hahahahaha
we are talking about one of the girls from work --
when i went to work around lunch time coz i had my PR principles exam this morning,
i had a very strange phone call from our state manager.
he was asking me whether i was or in any way have felt that i was harrassed by anyone
in our company. i was of course suprised. a bit confused, i thought hard first and said NO. And he asked me again if i definitely have not been harrassed and i said No again, and he then told me that one of my colleague is saying that she saw me being harrassed by one of the guys, she was referring to this girl, and i could sort of hear her from the background. so i asked what was her basis in claiming this
"harrassment" thingie and my boss said that it would have been in any form, verbal
or sexual harrassment. i was stunned. So i answered firmly again that i have not,
and that if i feel i have been harrasssd in any way, i would have put a
complaint myself and report it straight away to either my supervisor or my
manager.
My boss hearing my statement said that he didnt believe it either
and he knew that i would have told him as well, but added that my colleague
was adamant about her statements and thats when i conluded that she has made some allegations and was trying to drag me into it to bring forward her
case.
but why me? we dont even talk to each other, the most we say is Hi/Hello. And these are serious allegations, and can damage reputations. She shouldnt be making up stories like that.
My colleagues are very protective of me. The main reason why i stayed this long at my workplace is because my colleagues are very good to me and i get along so well with almost everyone (or so i thought) so for her to make that kind of allegation was rather unfair and unrespectful to me and to the other workers.
My supervisor thinks that she's probably jealous because she's not getting as much attention but i think she probably thought im a perfect scapegoat since im always friendly and nice and small and fragile looking, (so im automatically stupid as well :P)
but i strongly think her reasons are deeper than the ones mentioned above. i think that she didnt like the idea that she was transferred to a much shabbier office and had to share it with four other people, (compared to having the whole room as her office before).
aside from her allegations that i was "harrassed", she also claimed her share of harrassments, but if she felt that she is or was harrassed in the workplace, she
shouldnt be dragging other people to make her case solid. her case alone
should hold it. you just dont drag other people without asking them. she could have
had the courtesy of asking me first before giving all those allegations and save her face from humiliation afterwards.
she goes to war and forgets to bring her weapon basically.
and its not that i dont support girls who were sexually harrassed or
indecently assaulted, quite the contrary...
i strongly believe that no girls should ever be abused in any way.
ive been indecently assaulted before as well.
as most of you probably know, my exbandmate grabbed my boobs more than 2 years ago,
and he did that a few minutes after apologizing to me for being a sleazebag
the previous week. (so how stupid is that?)
the first incident was when he basically licked my shoulder when i was singing in front of a big audience, including my parents (i slapped him on stage)
after the show, i warned him that if he ever touches me inappropriately again, i will smash his face and i will break his bones, and he obviously didnt take me seriously and did it again the following week, so yeah i beat and kicked the life of him, and i quit the band, end of story.
that's basically how i retaliate if i get sexually harrassed.
and our receptionist also told me that this girl was also spreading
emails about her stinking shoes, i mean how below the belt is that? and
she was accusing a lot of people this and that, so she definitely has
problems and insecurities--
she resigned this afternoon (effective immidiately)
but i do wish that she will be happier in her next job (whatever that may
be) although my supervisor and manager think otherwise.
my colleagues were very upset with her, and so are my parents. so yeah, her resigning might be her wisest move so far.
so the moral of the story is, you cannot judge the book by its cover (if
you're not a judge) hahaha just kidding.
night night everyone.
bibi-geri roared at